How does anger typically surface in your life? "At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled." Marshall B. Rosenberg
When we get angry at someone, we judge that someone has done something wrong. In truth, the actions of others are never to blame. It's our thinking - our blaming and judgment - that causes the anger. And we blame and judge because we have a need that has not been met. In his book 'Nonviolent Communication,' Marshall B. Rosenberg advises that rather than blame others, we are better served by directing our energy towards meeting our own needs. He offers a simple tool for change. Instead of saying, 'I am angry because they ...' We can say, 'I am angry because I am needing ....' Free write this in reference to people you are angry with!
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