"Do not assume that he who seeks to comfort you now, lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good. His life may also have (had) much sadness and difficulty, far beyond yours. Were it otherwise, he would never have been able to find these words." Unknown

 

 The above is a beautiful blend of compassion and empathy- and while we often use these words interchangeably, there is a subtle difference between compassion and empathy; and yet at some point they meet. O course these words are beyond description so this is just a painter! Of course these words can mean so many things to so many people so this is just one more perspective!

 

COMPASSION:

In true compassion a larger consciousness prevails. We thus view things from the larger picture, thus is there certain stillness in compassion...a witnessing…

Which holds a steady embrace for the 'other';

Embracing both the larger macro ...and micro day-to-day view... of the situation,

Thus it judges not the others micro view and feelings,

Yet it holds for them a larger lens -and its stillness!

 

In true compassion a larger consciousness prevails. Thus is compassion - Love - not the emotion we know love as, but the gentle yet powerful force of Universal Love.

Thus is there complete involvement & being there for the 'other', yet detachment of the witness mode…

One isn’t drawn into the quick sand with the other and can thus best be there for them.

 

In true compassion a larger consciousness prevails. And thus those qualities of pure consciousness that are best required in the moment flow from 'you' to the 'other'.

The right words ‘come’

The appropriate silences ‘happen’

The required gestures – whether it be a holding of hands a pat or doing nothing- ‘naturally flow’.

 

In analogy it is like viewing another complain cry and feel the pain within a game perhaps of snakes and ladders! You help out the other, you are there for the other who cries out in despair during the play… you understand he is caught up in the seeming snakes ...yet your very awareness that the others anguish is only within a game and not his ‘real life’ enables you to flow with compassion instead of getting embroiled; to be there…yet be tranquil & still …helping him subtly through that energy field…till he can view beyond the game!

 

EMPATHY:

Empathy is when you and the other join as (become) one over some situation or emotion;

When you are one energetically with another you ‘feel’…and not merely’ understand’ the others situation and feelings!

Empathy is not merely an emotional oneness - but real in energy terms!

 

-It often arises when we have experienced the same - in common parlance when you have ‘been there’ too …and thus it is a ‘reality’ within you and not an observation or intellectual understanding. This memory… this shared reality… links you energetically- and thus empathy is present…

-It also arises when there is deep oneness with the other…when there is no ‘other’… thus in the oneness of energy fields - you literally become one with the others feelings too; often seen in mother and young child before the ‘separation’ begins to  happen…

-And of course as we expand …become one with Consciousness that we are…we increasingly become one with all that is.

 

EMPATHY & COMPASSION WORKING AS ONE:

Yet, inspite of this oneness - this shared energy field - where what happens to the ‘other’ happens to ‘us’…true empathy does  not get embroiled or caught up or lost in the ‘others’ situation that you are one with!

 

For in true empathy - compassion is inherent- in which we operate from our higher beingness as consciousness even while we are one with ‘another’ in his moments of seeming pain…

 

And as empathy means being one in energy terms indeed…we ...our compassion.. impacts the ‘other’ at subtle energy levels far beyond words or our personal self’s efforts …from the higher beingness ...consciousness we are established in…

 

Compassions’ larger view, its stillness; its Love the universal force… heals the one you are one with subtly but potently … as you are one energetically...

 

Compassions’ … at-one-ment with and non judgment of (whatever happens) and thus the ‘others’ present situation… subtly works through this energy embrace …

 

Empathy holds an energy embrace

Which allows compassion to permeate and heal

 

HEALING -COUNSELING -BEING WITH A FRIEND

In true healing …be it physical or emotional... energy sessions or counseling… or simply sharing with a friend or beloved

 

This combination is ideal

 

Empathy (become one with the ‘other’- through whichever means) is the door into the ‘other’;

Through which Compassion flows to aid…'still' the other…awash with love…perhaps somewhere deep within even show them a larger view which will unravel with time!

 

Empathy is the door that consciousness uses

So that its  larger self can permeate and impact it’s currently limited/in need self

 

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE

From my personal experiences with clients

I have learn t

That when I can look into their eyes

And transmit yessss I have been there; I Know

Oh yes I Know (not just understand)

I KNOW what it feels like....to have been in their situation

When there is thus not even a nuance from why or how could the ‘other’ feel, say, do what they did/do

When I don’t judge ....to the degree that I don’t see anything to not judge!!!

When I sometimes share similar examples from my own life …

Empathy…happens.. and I can feel this subtle shift tangibly… this real oneness energy-wise with the ‘other’ or their  ‘situation’…

And sometimes that’s all that is required…truly.

A door opens

A connection ‘happens’

And in this oneness

In this real in energy terms embrace

Does the Universe step in to heal…

The appropriate words or silences come…nothing to do with any profound knowledge…or use of divination tools…

The larger (universal) consciousness flows permeates impacts its currently limited (aspect! There is no ‘me’ doing the session.

 

Compassion is truly not yours or mine

Compassion is Consciousness…its Love and Wisdom.

And it uses a ‘me’ merely to open a door into that aspect of Self that currently needs to receive directly from consciousness!

 

 

Love from my heart to yours

Divyaa Kummar

"Things that are real are given and received in silence”.Meher baba