FORGIVENESS 1 –TRANSCENDING FORGIVENESS IS TRUE FORGIVENESS

True forgiveness, is when there is nothing to forgive- indeed the paradox of authentic forgiveness is where the concept of ‘forgiveness’ isn’t! '

Forgiveness builds upon itself… from (initially) learning to forgive another… to moving into the real-ization that there is nothing or no one to forgive!  And in this- in transcending the very concept of transgression by another - do we move into authentic forgiveness- which is not in acts of forgiveness but living in a state where there is nothing or no one to forgive!

Yes ‘forgiveness’ as we know it is a valuable step along the way, but even in 'forgiving' another - it implies that there exists some transgression by 'another' against 'you' that you have forgiven! And thus authentic forgiveness or truly going beyond the notion of forgiveness arises from the profound understanding that there is no 'other'! There is no one other than Self. Indeed it arises from complete Self empowerment! Whereby you know that life, its events and people are all created willfully by You - towards growth and Self exploration:

You may view the others actions as learning you have willfully chosen, and thus they as valuable teachers! Or those personal trainers who make you go ouch in exercise but help you develop!You may view difficult experiences as soul challenges you have chosen to overcome - and thus others as soul mates enabling that!You may view external problems as those aspects of self that you have chosen to move away from - to' evolve' -and thus to see them outside you to make it easier! Thus others as those all essential mirrors

In this gnosis; in this larger picture vision you automatically move away from blame; from victim hood! From the need to forgive...into thankfulness for those teachers, soul mates and god-self enabling mirrors!

At a deeper level, as we move into non doership- into the gnosis of ‘events happening but no doer thereof’ - forgiveness is further transcended in to an underlying sense of ‘it is it is’(iti iti)… all is as it is in the cosmic play…beyond judgment, labeling… indeed nothing to forgive and  paradoxically…. authentic forgiveness !

FORGIVENESS-2 – WHAT DOES TRANSCENDING FORGIVENESS  MEAN?

 Q: When we have been taught that forgiveness is an essential spiritual quality - what does moving away from forgiveness really mean? Q: It sounds very good, but how do we reach the stage of nothing left to forgive (blame) or be forgiven (guilt) in day to day ways?

This can be grasped from many points of view - through a coming together of all that we have learnt through this list over the years - so I will only re encapsulate it for you! All of us have understood at some level the gnosis that ‘I Am Creator’- and thus every thing on the outside (people, events, things – my life or life events - my personal reality’ environment& indeed my world) is willfully shaped by me.

We can say this in different ways: simply put:

- What is within me reflects for me to see on the outside and expand or disempower
-My energy signatures attract like wise; and repels the opposite
- Perception is an act of creation- thus my beliefs - how I view things-indeed shapes them
- My karma –what I have chosen to learn and experience - brings to me the best lessons, teachers and experiences towards growth… and indeed merger back with the whole that I truly am!

In this above understanding- that all is my reflection, or what I attract, or create, or have chosen to experience for my larger good and growth - where is the question of forgiveness? If there is nothing or no one outside me to hold responsible: Where blame? Where being the victim?

When we go deeper and understand that at every level- from current self, to soul and universal self and Godself… indeed at every step… I choose my role in the cosmic play we call existence… I choose my individuated purposes to be… and time and again from that willfully chosen purpose as the whole for the whole… I choose in each current lifetime… the experiences and opportunities… and yes the prods and triggers... the seemingly difficult events & people… so if at every point my free will is at play… my larger vision rather than the current limited perspective that best orchestrates the show… where is the question of blame and forgiveness?

Another very important way to move away from the need of forgiveness is to embrace (beyond the intellectual) that everything… everything that makes up my life and world is for my growth - that everything enables my ‘evolution’- indeed becomes a step back to merger… Godself… even if I cannot currently see how, when, why! So if everything that happens at every level is always growth, expansion, a step back to merger…the whole that I am… where forgiveness? If at all… it is thankfulness that becomes present!

Our inner vocabulary changes… words like problems, issues, and crisis get replaced with words like ‘learning’ and ‘growth’ and ‘opportunity’! Hurtful, difficult and challenging people become mirrors, teachers, soul mates, aids and soul triggers towards my complete self empowerment! Indeed as we move away from feeling powerless… as we claim complete self responsibility… the concept of blame and thus forgiveness begins to lose its hold on us and thankfulness pervades even deeper towards a 24/7

So it is time to become aware that in this larger context as long as there is something to forgive, true forgiveness not happened! If you say I have forgiven x… complete resolution has not happened within you… you are not operating from self empowerment of being the creator… because if it had… if you were… you would be operating from unconditional acceptance of everything… life and your world… as self created soul experiences and opportunities for growth and merger… there would be nothing or no one to forgive! Similarly as long as I feel forgiven - my ‘guilt’ is not completely erased… I have not truly embrace that just as I have chosen everything for my growth-so have seeming ‘others’!

But this does NOT mean you stop forgiving! Forgiveness is a vital step in the right direction till you reach this larger gnosis that there is nothing to forgive! Always keep the larger-higher-finer concept in mind whilst you work with where you currently are so that you may move towards it and make it your truth! Do the tango!

FORGIVENESS-3 – FORGING SELF IS AS IMPORTANT - MORE DIFFICULT!

Dearest all, this takes 'forgiveness' (or nothing to forgive) deeper - towards self! Paradoxically... this is more difficult than 'forgiveness' (or nothing to forgive) towards another! I start with some questions from readers:

Q: “We can’t blame anybody outside us any more, but then if I create it all-am is so horrible?”

Q: “Oh God, I must have got such horrible qualities... I am seeing all these horrible mirrors outside… and attracting only bad?”

We have explored this so a recap only:  Yes, as we move into forgiveness, at some point initially & temporally non-forgiveness can subtly shift… from not forgiving/blaming the other… to not forgiving self - self-blame and guilt! And it is equally important to understand that forgiveness (or beyond - there being nothing to forgive) extends equally to self! Indeed your relationship with self is your primary relationship, and self acceptance enables you to accept ‘others’! And paradoxically, it almost becomes easier to forgive the other than self and again the question arises – how? How do we forgive self for all that we are and have ‘done’?

Let’s start with the quote “Humanity is not trying to become spirit; it is indeed spirit exploring Itself’! If you truly understand this there is nothing left to say! To truly move away from self-recrimination and guilt into self -acceptance and love it is important to go to the very deepest of your human roots; to know your source; to know what your human experience is all about!

So tap into this gnosis that humanity, you and me are Spirit, Consciousness, God… call Self what you may… experiencing Itself; exploring Itself; knowing itself; reveling in Self; experiencing Itself through a tangible experience! You may see the human experience as a cosmic journey; a play; a game… through which Spirit, Consciousness, God… you and me... ‘expands’ or ‘fulfills itself infinitely’ or how All That Is paradoxically becomes ‘more’! Simply put we can call humanity the game of separation (from Self) and ignorance (of Self)… a ‘game’ Spirit, Consciousness, God willfully chooses…till it returns ‘home’ deeply fulfilled through the journey/game!

Now if we come closer home, and real-ize (make real within you beyond intellectual knowledge) that all you and me do is towards this- where the question of forgiveness of self? If the game itself implies separation from the Whole (and thus its actions) and ignorance of the Whole (and thus its actions) where guilt for those actions?

If we understand that our original ‘negative’ karma began at the point of origin itself- when we chose as God-individuations to explore a certain gamut of the Whole for the Whole and in that to disempower its flip side- that I am not… adharma… then where guilt? How can we play the game of dharma vs. adharma without initially going through adharma?

Come beloveds and view this in day-to-day terms- but go beyond the words for they can only point to the indescribable! How much love, how much love that ‘I” willfully individuate and seemingly go so ‘far’ from Myself towards Self-exploration! Come beloveds view how one… the Oneness that I can play the game of such ‘separation’! Come beloveds view how much confidence and Self-awareness that I willfully enter into seeming ‘ignorance’! Come beloveds view how established are we in our Dharma- Divine Nature- that we willfully enjoy entering into the fray… the game of ‘seeming adharma’!

Divyaa Kummar